Why Do Bad Things Happen?

My Attempt to Understand by Modern Melly   Why… It’s the age old question, right? The one we use the most, I’ll venture a guess. Sometimes it’s easy to answer- ‘Mommy, why do I have to wear shoes’- other times, less so- ‘Daddy, why do bad things happen?’ It’s our inherent nature to seek explanation, … Read More

Empowerment. I’ll Tell You What It’s Not

Empowerment. I’ll Tell You What It’s Not

by ModernMelly Let’s begin with what it is: em·pow·er·ment – əmˈpouərmənt/ : the process of becoming stronger and more confident, especially in controlling one’s life and claiming one’s rights. “political steps for the empowerment of women” There. Okay, now we’ve got the dictionary.com definition (or at least part of it). It’s one of my favorite … Read More

Own Your Fifty

Own Your Fifty

Own Your Fifty ModernMelly The Dark Side of Life About 11 years (or so) ago I was in a dark, ugly, personal space in life, in my mind, and especially in my heart. It sucked. It also led me to make reckless choices that not only impacted me, they affected those around me. I mean, of course … Read More

Reckless Words

Reckless Words

Reckless Words By ModernMelly Your Words Matter We grew up chanting, “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me!” Well, that was a lie. Words can hurt like hell. Have you ever been told, “I don’t love you anymore”? That hurts. Have you even been told you aren’t good enough, smart … Read More

A Heathen Talks Faith

A Heathen Talks Faith

A Heathen Talks Faith By ModernMelly Are You A Heathen, Too? Heathen. How many of us are heathens? To me, that word always seemed more nefarious than it actually is. Turns out, according to a basic definition, a heathen is merely someone who does not belong to a widely held religion. Not so wicked after all, … Read More

Keep It Classy, Ladies

Keep It Classy, Ladies

Keep It Classy, Ladies by Modern Melly People rarely say or do things to amaze me anymore. I hate to sound jaded, but it’s true. They do, however, totally baffle me. Sometimes I wonder if it’s me. Am I  the one who’s wacky?! Okay, technically- yes. Yes, I am wacky in my own way (or so my … Read More

Am I Self Critical or Constructive?

Am I Self Critical or Constructive?

Am I Self Critical or Constructive? Understanding the Power of Positivity Modern Melly Before I get into the whole ‘Am I self critical or constructive’ thing, let me start by telling you this: I have three distinct blog writing modes: 1) Super Snarky Soap Box Posts 2) Random Look At The Pretty Butterfly Posts 3) I Will Pahmp … Read More

You Have No Power Over Me

You Have No Power Over Me

You Have No Power Over Me A Modern Melly original post & pep talk for 2017 There’s a line in the movie Labyrinth (high on my ALL TIME FAVORITES list) when Sarah (Jennifer Connolly) remembers  the one, most singular truth she’d not realized about Jareth, the Goblin King (David Bowie, I kid you not) and herself, … Read More

Year In Review. Kind Of-ish.

Year In Review. Kind Of-ish.

Year In Review. Kind Of-ish by ModernMelly Well, hello! It’s been a while, hasn’t it?! Hope you’re all doing well & have made it through 2016 as unscathed as one could be after 365 days of getting out there and adulting  in what has proven to be an interesting year indeed. I’m well, thank you … Read More

Learning To Stay Above The Fray (An Open Letter)

Learning To Stay Above The Fray  (An Open Letter)

Learning To Stay Above The Fray (An Open Letter) by ModernMelly Let Me Start By Saying… Obviously, by my many posts, you know I’m a wee bit opinionated. Not in a dick-ish way (I hope, at least), just in a “I’ve a very strong, set perspective” way. For instance, I’ve been a little very vocal … Read More

I Am The Fraction (A Police Wife’s Vent)

I Am The Fraction (A Police Wife’s Vent)

I Am The Fraction A Police Wife’s Vent By ModernMelly World Gone Mad I saw a meme yesterday of a man sitting in a chair, popcorn in lap, watching wide-eyed the world on fire, and I thought, ‘yes, exactly’. I thought about that image for a while; that he sat there passively, just watching, as … Read More

Dear Cop-Hater

Dear Cop-Hater

Dear Cop Hater By ModernMelly My ‘Open Letter’ Dear Cop hater/basher/anti-law enforcement wing nuts, Hey there. So, you don’t like cops, hmmm? Okay, well, I thought I’d take a moment to give you all the shout out you so desperately and constantly seek, then I’m going to right back to my amazingly blessed law enforcement … Read More

I Can Only Imagine

I Can Only Imagine

I felt compelled today to take a moment and write a passage that speaks to a phrase I find myself often saying to my husband when hearing about things that have happened on the job over the years. For those of you who don’t know, my husband is a 30+ year veteran Police Officer (in my … Read More

You Are Not Broken~ A Girl’s Mantra

You Are Not Broken~ A Girl’s Mantra

You Are Not Broken A Girl’s Mantra by ModernMelly Broken. We hear this word so often in the context of humans, of human relationships. It bothers me, gets right under my skin and digs like a splinter- one of those little tiny ones you can feel but can’t quite get at, this contextual usage. Broken? … Read More

The New Normal

The New Normal

Normal. What is that, exactly? By simple definition, normal is : “the usual, average, or typical state or condition” of something. Normal used include conversations where, when someone asked what my husband did for a living, I’d  say ‘he’s a police officer’. They’d be impressed, or at least intrigued, express some form of gratitude, I’d feel … Read More

Soul Mate or Soul Sucker?

Soul Mate or Soul Sucker?

Soul Mate, Or Soul Sucker? By ModernMelly   I read a Facebook post late last night, just before bed, from a beautiful young woman; a gut wrenching breakup post that instantly sent me back to the heartbreaks of my youth. Now, I won’t minimize this girl’s devastation, her certainty that she’d just lost her soul … Read More

Home is The Haven: Police Family Life

Home is The Haven: Police Family Life

Home Is The Haven Police Family Life by Modern Melly Making home the haven. Now that sounds nice, doesn’t? But is it easy? Hell no, at least not at first. But the fact is, if you’ve married a police officer, then you know you didn’t sign on for ‘easy’. After I wrote my story “Life … Read More

Online Job Application: Police Wife

Online Job Application: Police Wife

So I have to preface this post with an explanation: Last week my husband and I were having a difference of opinion- okay, fine, a bit of an argument really- about an obligation versus a commitment, which one takes precedence, which of us was right, which was wrong, blah blah blah. It happens, no big … Read More

On Faith: An Awkward Journey To Acceptance

On Faith: An Awkward Journey To Acceptance

Woo. Awkward one.I mean, for me it is- or was, at least. Religion, particularly the Catholic kind, has always given me the distinct feeling of discomfort. Like, if someone started talking about their trust in the Almighty, or the ‘Lord Jesus Christ is my Savior’, oh, my God (yeah, I saw what I just did … Read More

Dear Sibling of a Special Needs Child

Dear Sibling of a Special Needs Child

Dear Sibling of a Special Needs Child, The first thing I’d like to say to you, is simply: Hello. I want to let you know, I see you there. Fidgeting, waiting, hoping. I see you watching as everyone smiles at your sibling, while you stand back just a little ways. Yes, I do see you, … Read More

12 Happy Pages For Social Media Addicts

12 Happy Pages For Social Media Addicts

  12 Happy Pages For Social Media Addicts By Modern Melly Hello fellow social media addicts! Disclaimer: This is not a support group, nor will I try to persuade you to step away from the computer/laptop/tablet/smartphone and go enjoy nature and a real conversation with spoken words and no emoticons. Nope, that’s someone else’s job. … Read More

Thank You, From A Police Wife

Thank You, From A Police Wife

Anyone that reads my stories knows I love social media, Facebook particularly, and that I start my day by reading my Facebook wall like it’s the morning paper. In my defense: it is like the morning paper; there’s your world news, local news, entertainment, but then there’s so much more: updates on how friends and family are starting … Read More

We Have Forgotten

We Have Forgotten

I admit it. I hash-tagged “Never Forget” this morning, posted it on social media along with one of the many, many, heart breaking photos from September 11, 2011. Then I immediately regretted it. But not because I don’t feel it, or think it. Not because I don’t have reverence and solemnity for all those innocent … Read More

Dear Modern Moms (Message from a Dinosaur Mom)

Dear Modern Moms (Message from a Dinosaur Mom)

With so many topics to choose from- Donald Trump running for President (love it. Gasp, I said it), the senseless and cowardly slaughter of Cecil the Lion (heartsick over it), Planned Parenthood selling baby body parts (conflicted about it), ISIS (violently hate it), Horrible Hillary(nuff said), and so many more mind melting news stories, I’ve … Read More

Welcome Winds Of Change

Welcome Winds Of Change

“Welcome winds of change…” or so I keep telling myself. Repeatedly. Daily. Almost hourly. From where did this obsessiveness with this phrase come?  Ah, well it started last week, as I absently scrolled down my Facebook wall. Meme after meme, post after post, article after article. I was in a “Facebook fog”- a phenomenon as equally … Read More

Boxes, Prayers & Swears (AKA Sanity Savers)

Boxes, Prayers & Swears (AKA Sanity Savers)

Yes. That’s right: Boxes, Prayers & Swears. Where’s she going with this, right? Well,  it’s kinda my thing, among other things, of course, for getting through life’s ‘stuff’. I love all three, plus one that’s not up there: Drinks. I left it out so as not to offend the teetotalers. I’m nice like that, because … Read More

Stop (SAYING) ‘Police’ Brutality

Stop (SAYING) ‘Police’ Brutality

“That word: Police, is worn with pride, dignity and respect by thousands of good men and women, so how dare we sully their service with such an ugly word?”

You Think You Know Me (Because Once, You Knew Me)

You Think You Know Me (Because Once, You Knew Me)

You Think You Know Me (Because Once, You Knew Me) by ModernMelly A funny thing happened when I began dating my husband: I changed. At least, that’s how some people in my life have put it. Instinctively, I bristle, and want to say screw you, because that’s what comes to mind first. Granted, I’d be more … Read More

If I Had A Soundtrack To My Life

If I Had A Soundtrack To My Life

As you, of course know (because you follow my blog so devoutly. Wink, wink.) I am a police loving, lipstick wearing, Steve Perry obsessed, I Love You, Man drinker, who has a penchant for imagining that I am living an ever running live TV show, of which I am obviously: The Star. As the star of … Read More

Police Wife

Police Wife

“We see their heart, we know their soul. We are their safe place …We are the relief at the end of a shift where they have seen the worst that humanity has to offer.”

As A Mom

As A Mom

I woke up this morning excited that my daughter and her boyfriend were coming over for breakfast. Watching my daughter as an adult, navigating her way through life, is something I still marvel at still, even though she’s been on her own for nearly two years now. It got me thinking about both of my … Read More

Life Lessons I’ve Learned By Being A Police Wife

Life Lessons I’ve Learned By Being A Police Wife

My husband and I met nearly 8 years ago, through a dating website. We both, come to find out, just wanted to try something out of our comfort zones, neither actually “looking for love” or a one night stand for that matter. For me, as a self professed “bubble girl”- I only liked my circle … Read More

My Blue Family

My Blue Family

  My Blue Family By ModernMelly To my Blue Family- My husband is one of yours. He calls you his brothers and sisters. So that makes you mine as well. I claim you as I do my blood family. My pride in you is immense and my love for you is boundless. As I sat … Read More

7 Rules For Unf*cking Your Divorce (When You Have Kids.)

7 Rules For Unf*cking Your Divorce (When You Have Kids.)

7 Rules For UnF*cking Your Divorce (When You Have Kids) by ModernMelly Writing What I Know As an aspiring (paid) writer, I’ve often heard, and taken to heart, the sage advice to “write what you know.” Logical advice, isn’t it? Because it would silly beyond reason for me to sit here and attempt to write … Read More

Simply Complicated

Last night I went to sleep thinking, ‘Tomorrow, I’m going to work on a happy/light post for the blog!” That exclamation point was overkill, I wasn’t that exuberant for God sakes. Not to say that I’m unenthusiastic about blogging, I really am. I love the fact that letters strung together to create words, which can become … Read More

Livin’ La Vida Saludable (Healthy)

Livin’ La Vida Saludable (Healthy)

…. I’d hit the point of hyper focused determination to get myself straightened out. So hyper focused that I wasn’t daunted by the prospect of changing every thing I did…

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